Husband has hard time compromising.....?

My husband and I have been married for 22 years and have two wonderful kids. He's a great guy overall but when it comes to us doing things together on the weekends or on vacation, it seems to be almost impossible for him to compromise. We always do what he wants to do. Every movie we go to a theater to see, every one we rent, and every TV show we watch is chosen by him. When we go on vacation, he pretty much calls the shots then too. It has been this way for the majority of our marriage and when we were younger, I thought it was just immaturity. I've tried to mention movies I would like to see or something like that but he always makes sarcastic remarks about my choices and on the rare occassions where we've done something I want to do, he complains. When I try to speak up about what I perceive as selfishness, a huge argument breaks out. He will yell and cuss and tell me that I'm putting him down or he'll say "If I'm so bad, why are you here?" Really? It's like I can't say anything to him without him putting up a wall. He will sometimes say "Well, I know I need to change some things" but that doesn't happen or it happens for a while and then goes right back to the way it was. I guess I should just not say anything to keep the peace; movies, TV, etc. are way more important to him than to me. It's just that his unwillingness to do anything I want to do is a sign to me that my feelings really don't matter to him. He blames me and says "Well, you've got a mouth; speak up" but I try and WW3 breaks out. Has anyone ever encountered a similar situation? I'd be interested to see how others would approach this kind of thing with someone that's all but impossible to talk to.